Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Mistakes
AI that shows you YOUR relationship patterns before you self-sabotage again. Identify attachment triggers, understand conflict cycles, and finally break free from toxic patterns that keep destroying your relationships.
Same Story, Different Person?
You swear this relationship will be different. But somehow, you're having the same conflicts, feeling the same anxieties, watching the same patterns destroy another chance at love.
Repeating Patterns
You keep choosing the same type of person, having the same fights, ending relationships for the same reasons.
Attachment Anxiety
You're either clingy and anxious or emotionally distant and avoidant—and you don't know why.
Self-Sabotage
You destroy good relationships with familiar patterns—pushing people away, creating conflict, or running when it gets real.
Break the Relationship Cycle
Pattern Recognition
Identify recurring relationship patterns you keep repeating without realizing it
Attachment Style Insights
Understand your anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment patterns
Conflict Trigger Identification
Discover what actually triggers fights—not just what you argue about
Self-Sabotage Detection
Catch yourself before you destroy a good relationship with familiar patterns
Communication Pattern Analysis
See how you communicate when anxious, angry, or vulnerable
Red Flag Recognition
Identify toxic patterns early—before you're emotionally invested
"I realized I have anxious attachment that gets triggered when partners are busy. I was sabotaging relationships by demanding constant reassurance. Seeing the pattern helped me work on it instead of destroying another relationship."
"Lifelight showed me I only have conflicts when I'm stressed at work + hungry + sleep-deprived. My partner isn't the problem—my emotional regulation is. This insight saved my marriage."
"I kept dating emotionally unavailable people. The app's pattern data made me face the truth: I choose avoidant partners because I fear real intimacy. I'm in therapy now, working on it."
How can an app help me understand my relationship patterns?+
Most people repeat relationship patterns without realizing it—choosing similar partners, having the same conflicts, or self-sabotaging at predictable points. Lifelight tracks your relationship experiences, emotional responses, and conflict patterns over time. The AI identifies recurring themes: 'You become anxious when partners need space,' 'Conflicts escalate when you're stressed at work,' or 'You withdraw when feeling vulnerable.' These insights help you break destructive cycles before they destroy another relationship.
Can this help me identify my attachment style?+
Absolutely. The app tracks behaviors associated with anxious, avoidant, secure, and disorganized attachment—how you respond to closeness, conflict, separation, and emotional intimacy. Over time, you'll see your attachment patterns clearly: when you seek reassurance, when you withdraw, what triggers each response. This awareness is the first step to developing more secure attachment patterns.
Will tracking my relationship make things worse?+
Only if you use it to ruminate or over-analyze. Used healthily, tracking provides clarity about patterns, validates your experiences, and helps you communicate needs more clearly to partners. Many users find that understanding their patterns REDUCES relationship anxiety because they're no longer confused about why conflicts happen. It's a tool for growth, not ammunition for arguments.
Can it identify toxic relationship patterns?+
Yes. The AI can identify concerning patterns: repeated boundary violations, communication breakdowns, emotional manipulation tactics, or cycles of conflict-apology-honeymoon. If you're questioning whether a relationship is healthy, pattern data provides objective evidence beyond your emotions. Many users have used insights from Lifelight to make difficult but necessary decisions to leave toxic relationships.
How is this different from couples therapy?+
This isn't couples therapy—it's personal pattern awareness. You track YOUR responses, triggers, and behaviors. However, many therapists recommend individual pattern tracking because it makes couples therapy more effective. You come to sessions with concrete examples, identified patterns, and specific areas to work on rather than vague complaints.
Can it help me stop repeating the same relationship mistakes?+
That's exactly what it's designed for. The app identifies your personal relationship patterns: 'You ignore red flags when attracted to charismatic people,' 'You sacrifice your needs to avoid conflict,' or 'You leave relationships when they get too intimate.' Seeing these patterns objectively—with data, not just hindsight—helps you make different choices in real-time.
Stop the Cycle. Start Healing.
Your next relationship doesn't have to repeat the past. Get the insights you need to break destructive patterns.